Movie Reflections: Now and Then

Hello there! I can’t believe it’s been over two years since I’ve written on this blog. I’ve been aching to write on it again for a while now, but college has kept me preoccupied. I plan on writing on this blog more frequently because I enjoy it immensely as a creative outlet. I know I usually write about sustainability/the environment, but I want to do something a little different. I love movies and love analyzing them, so I hope you enjoy this reflection on an old favorite movie of mine, Now and Then. Thanks for reading! I promise to write more again soon.

Warning: There are some spoilers in this review, so if you care about that, you might not want to read it.

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Last night, I watched a childhood favorite movie, Now and Then. I don’t think I’ve watched it since I was about 12 years old, the same age I was as the main characters in the movie. To give some background, Now and Then is about 4 girls who grew up in the small town of Shelby, Indiana who reunite as adults when Chrissy, one of the main characters, is days away from giving birth to her first child. As adults, they reflect on a transformative summer they had in the year 1970 when they were 12 years old.

Despite Now and Then having a cult following, it got poor reviews by critics. Critics say that it’s too similar to Stand By Me, that the writing is poor, and that the script is too cheesy. Albeit, I’ve never seen Stand By Me, but I think that when movies are made about the experience of growing up as a teen girl, people dismiss it as “chick-flick,” “unoriginal,” and “sitcom-like.” Now everyone is entitled to not like a movie, but I can’t help but think that the patriarchy in the movie industry has influenced the perceptions of critics. Do you know how many action movies are similar to each other? People don’t criticize action or “male-oriented” movies, the way they do movies about women. Rant aside, I believe there is so much for everyone to gain from watching this movie, young and old.

Watching this is as an adult, I felt much more of an emotional impact and understood the movie in ways that I hadn’t before. As a kid, you live in a make-believe land and have trouble accepting the harsh realities of life. This comes out in different ways throughout the movie. Roberta lost her mom when she was 4 and to cope with this tragedy, she keeps faking her death. Sam’s parents got divorced when it wasn’t common, so she keeps it a secret from her friends and immerses herself in the mysterious death of Johnny, a boy who died at 12 during 1943.

Now and Then captures that transition of being a child to being an adult in a unique way. The moment you become a girl to a woman isn’t when you get your period, but rather when you stop make-believing. The 4 girls wanted to believe that Johnny had risen from the dead, but when they found out that his tombstone was broken by accident by graveyard keeper, that was the moment they stopped believing, which was a harsh reality for them all.

One moment that stands out to me in the moment is when Sam meets “Creepy Pete” who comes out only at night. In a pivotal moment, she learns that Pete is actually Johnny’s father and that his son was brutally murdered. One of the pieces of advice that he gave Sam was that even though horrible things happen to you in life, you can’t shut out the world. As an adult, she reflects that she didn’t realize the meaning of those words until later in life.

When I watched this movie as a kid, the emotional impact of these words went completely over my head. Now that I’m older and have lived through some pretty harsh realities, I understand exactly what he means. It’s easy to believe that the world is against you and that there’s someone in the sky cursing you with awful situation after awful situation. Even if everything is going smoothly in your personal life, you can get angry at all of the suffering happening in the world. But you can’t shut the world out. Because in between the awfulness is love, family, friendship, delicious food, connecting with strangers, the simple act of getting dressed in the morning and how good that feels, feeling proud of a small accomplishment, laughter, comedy shows that almost make you pee your pants, learning that trees can talk to each other through mycelium fungus, new age music, and countless other things to live for. Life doesn’t care about timing or spacing out bad events. Life is brutal. Not everything happens for a reason and often shit just happens. But you can’t become indifferent and stop living. You have to keep working towards a better tomorrow. That tomorrow might not be tomorrow. It might not be next year. It might not be in 10 years, but as long as you keep working for it, that tomorrow of peace and tranquility you’ve been waiting for will come.

I highly recommend watching this movie. And if you watched it as a kid, watch it again as an adult, because you’ll get something new out of it.

Being An Imperfect Environmentalist

Over the past year, I’ve gotten into sustainability and protecting the Earth. I light up every time I hear the word ‘sustainable’ or ‘sustainability’. From the research I’ve done, I have realized that a lot of the world’s problems are connected to the environment and our inability to slow down. The concept of living more consciously and intently, is uplifting, because not only do I think that paying more attention to how we treat the Earth will help the environment, but maybe even save humanity all together. This past year I took a class in college on systemic thinking. One of the resources I read for that class was about the year 3000 and what we as humans want the world to be like that far into the future. All of the authors agreed that they wanted an ‘imperfect but lovable world’. It could just be the young idealist in me, but I believe that the concept of sustainability can help us get to that point.

Even though becoming more sustainable as a person and inspiring others to do the same is uplifting, it also terrifies me. Every single time I read a disturbing article about climate change, I realize that it’s not necessarily just a foray into becoming a better human/contributing towards a better world. It’s a matter of life or death.

It’s not just preparing for natural disasters that might come a thousand years from now if we’re not careful; it’s about apocalyptic disasters set to happen in this century. It’s not just about choosing an organic bamboo t-shirt over an ethically made, cotton American shirt sprayed with pesticides. It’s about the female and child garment workers working over 12 hours a day in egregious working conditions; breathing in toxic chemicals while being paid slave labor wages just to survive. By the way, these chemicals find their way into the water supply as well. It’s about how  2/3 of the great barrier reef has been bleached. It’s about how minorities in poor communities will be disproportionately effected by climate change. It’s about how the Arctic during the summer-time will be ice free by the year 2040. I will be 43 years old. That sounds like a long-time from now, but in the grand scheme of things, really isn’t. The next war could be over water supply. Fact is, climate change is going to make the world into a pandemonium and 30% of people believe that climate change is not human caused, but rather due to natural changes. While this is still the minority and not the majority, cultural influences are powerful and as a result, they vote in people who deny climate change. The majority of Republicans in congress deny climate change because of big-oil special interests. Even amongst the slim number of Republicans in congress who do believe that climate change is caused by humans, they don’t believe that it’s a huge threat. For instance, Governor John Kasich who is seen to be moderate believes that, “Now it doesn’t mean because you pursue a policy of being sensitive to the environment, because we don’t know how much humans actually contribute.” It’s depressing when you look around you and want to snatch all the plastic bottles out of people’s hands and replace them with reusable ones; showing them how much easier and cost-efficient it is. It’s depressing when the college you go to promotes sustainability, but their compost bin isn’t even inside the dining halls. They also overheat the dorms and classrooms to the point where you’re sweating profusely and feeling nauseous. You want to yell at the administration and tell them how much money they’d save if they turned the thermostat down and told people to wear sweaters instead. It’s depressing when you see people do silly things that are toxic to the environment and if they made one small change, it could make a huge difference. But I also know that I have to have compassion and know that people care. They just aren’t educated enough and/or don’t have the time to think about it due to the ludicrously busy lifestyles we’re forced to live today.

However, I also think that environmental perfectionism can steer some people away from living more sustainably as they feel that they can’t live up to what they perceive to be an impossible standard. Including myself. Now don’t get me wrong, I absolutely admire and support the zero waste movement, minimalism, capsule wardrobes, only buying ethical and sustainable products, compassionate vegans, living off the grid, etc. If you do any of these things, props to you! I believe that the world can and should learn from these movements; but doing all of these things 100% of the time isn’t attainable for everybody.

I often will beat myself up for not being ‘sustainable enough’.  Even though I know about the horrors of the fashion industry, I still buy clothing from mainstream retailers when I need pants in a petite size, a bra that fits my large breasts, work clothes that fit my budget, or simply just because it’s more convenient. I try to buy more ethical and sustainable products, but I can’t help that they all come packaged in plastic. I’m just not in a place in my life where I can ‘DIY’. I still take 20 minute hot showers because I like it. I still use the dryer to dry my clothes. I’m nowhere close to zero waste or even low-waste yet. I can’t go vegan due to having a plethora of food allergies and other health conditions.

As you can see, some of the things I listed above I can definitely improve on and some of it is outside of my control. But I can’t help but compare myself to bloggers, youtubers, and Instagramers who I know are doing better than me. Sometimes I’m able to rationalize my way through and tell myself that I’m in a learning stage, that it’s important to have a peace of mind. Even if I could, I don’t think I would be completely 100% anything because having an obsessive mind-set where I scrutinize all of my actions isn’t healthy for me. However, whenever I see a new article talking about how we’re destined for the worst within our lifetimes, I feel like all the actions I’m taking are minuscule compared to the depth of the problem. If I use another plastic bag all the fish in the ocean will die. I need to start a capsule wardrobe now! 32 pieces in my wardrobe per season max! Curse you food allergies! Because of you, I can’t go vegan and I’m killing the planet. Yeah that piece of plastic might be recyclable, but only 9% of plastics get recycled, so therefore I must go zero waste NOWWW!!! You get the picture.

I can only do so much as one person. The key to saving the planet and becoming more sustainable is educating people on actions they can take, not specific lifestyles or labels. Small actions add up. Imagine if everybody drank from a reusable water bottle, started thrifting more, used public transportation or car-pooled whenever possible, refused plastic straws, or went meatless on Mondays. Think of the impact all of this would have! It is my opinion that the simple, daily changes of many can have the same effect as the larger actions of a dedicated few. If you can’t or don’t want to do everything in an eco-friendly/sustainable way, don’t give up the ship! Every little action helps!  Nobody should shame you if you aren’t doing things in their way or up to their personal standards. I’m not and will never be the perfect environmentalist. Instead, I strive to become more mindful and aware of the actions I take each day, while also educating myself as much as I can. Living a more sustainable lifestyle is a journey, not an instantaneous endpoint. Don’t beat yourself up for being an imperfect environmentalist. If you’re reading this blog post, you care, and that is what matters the most.

How are you an imperfect environmentalist? Let me know in the comment section down below!

Alex

Opinion: Kim Kardashian and the Nude Selfie

I’m not a Kardashian fan. I find it kind of sickening that these reality stars get paid 10x more than someone who contributes a lot to society, such as a teacher or firefighter. They get paid to do nothing but complain about prima-donna problems all day, but that’s probably more of a reflection on what the American public values than the Kardashians themselves.

I could talk about what is wrong with this family all day long, but I do not want to write a hate post on the Kardashians. However, I do want to talk about something that’s been circulating the news. Lately, Kim Kardashian has been posting nude selfies of herself on Instagram, proclaiming it to be female empowerment.

This isn’t really anything new. As you might recall last year, she was on the cover of a magazine, baring all in its photoshopped glory. While that photo in particular was a distasteful nude, my general problem isn’t with the nudity. It’s the way she justifying it as an act of empowerment because she is owning her sexuality. Kim recently openly penned a letter that had many laughable contradictions, one of them being, “I am empowered by my body. I am empowered by my sexuality. I am empowered by feeling comfortable in my skin. I am empowered by showing the world my flaws and not being afraid of what anyone is going to say about me”. I’m sorry but if she was comfortable in her own skin and wasn’t afraid to show her flaws, the second black and white photo wouldn’t have been as heavily airbrushed and not have looked ‘perfect’. In this photo, her hair is perfect, makeup perfect, and has what the media portrays as ‘the perfect body’. Look, maybe Kim Kardashian has super genes, I don’t know, but she just had a second baby and I’m sure that her tight abs were either photoshopped or that she had plastic surgery. The vast majority of women do not look like this shortly after having children. If she was really not afraid to show her flaws, she would not look like she was ready to go to the Oscars, but naked (and wouldn’t of that have that been a hoot!).

In my opinion, she is using female empowerment as a mask for using Instagram as an attention-seeking, self-serving platform. She is doing this for publicity/her own narcissistic needs; not to empower herself, her daughter, or other women. I personally do not have a problem with tasteful nude photography.When photography is used to show humans in their most raw and natural form, it can be extremely powerful and beautiful. However, taking an ugly, sexualized  bathroom selfie and then posting another photo where you’re airbrushed for personal gain is not.

My question for Kim is: why not use International Women’s Day to spread awareness about female pay inequality,  the gender gap in certain professions, girls not being given the right to an education, the worldwide violence against women, human trafficking, or the countless other injustices women have to face around the world daily?! Why use International Women’s Day instead to post naked pictures of yourself, using no message other than ‘be proud of your body as long you Photoshop, have a hair blowout, and do your makeup first.”, and then slapping the hashtag “Happy International Women’s Day” all over it. I’m sorry Kim, but you’re instead making it “Happy International Kim Kardashian Day”. Are women who are struggling with body image going to be in the news more because of this? No, you will be. And if they are, they’ll be talking about  you as a contributor.

What do you think about this topic? Do you agree with me or have a different opinion? I’m all ears!

-Alex