Movie Reflections: Now and Then

Hello there! I can’t believe it’s been over two years since I’ve written on this blog. I’ve been aching to write on it again for a while now, but college has kept me preoccupied. I plan on writing on this blog more frequently because I enjoy it immensely as a creative outlet. I know I usually write about sustainability/the environment, but I want to do something a little different. I love movies and love analyzing them, so I hope you enjoy this reflection on an old favorite movie of mine, Now and Then. Thanks for reading! I promise to write more again soon.

Warning: There are some spoilers in this review, so if you care about that, you might not want to read it.

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Last night, I watched a childhood favorite movie, Now and Then. I don’t think I’ve watched it since I was about 12 years old, the same age I was as the main characters in the movie. To give some background, Now and Then is about 4 girls who grew up in the small town of Shelby, Indiana who reunite as adults when Chrissy, one of the main characters, is days away from giving birth to her first child. As adults, they reflect on a transformative summer they had in the year 1970 when they were 12 years old.

Despite Now and Then having a cult following, it got poor reviews by critics. Critics say that it’s too similar to Stand By Me, that the writing is poor, and that the script is too cheesy. Albeit, I’ve never seen Stand By Me, but I think that when movies are made about the experience of growing up as a teen girl, people dismiss it as “chick-flick,” “unoriginal,” and “sitcom-like.” Now everyone is entitled to not like a movie, but I can’t help but think that the patriarchy in the movie industry has influenced the perceptions of critics. Do you know how many action movies are similar to each other? People don’t criticize action or “male-oriented” movies, the way they do movies about women. Rant aside, I believe there is so much for everyone to gain from watching this movie, young and old.

Watching this is as an adult, I felt much more of an emotional impact and understood the movie in ways that I hadn’t before. As a kid, you live in a make-believe land and have trouble accepting the harsh realities of life. This comes out in different ways throughout the movie. Roberta lost her mom when she was 4 and to cope with this tragedy, she keeps faking her death. Sam’s parents got divorced when it wasn’t common, so she keeps it a secret from her friends and immerses herself in the mysterious death of Johnny, a boy who died at 12 during 1943.

Now and Then captures that transition of being a child to being an adult in a unique way. The moment you become a girl to a woman isn’t when you get your period, but rather when you stop make-believing. The 4 girls wanted to believe that Johnny had risen from the dead, but when they found out that his tombstone was broken by accident by graveyard keeper, that was the moment they stopped believing, which was a harsh reality for them all.

One moment that stands out to me in the moment is when Sam meets “Creepy Pete” who comes out only at night. In a pivotal moment, she learns that Pete is actually Johnny’s father and that his son was brutally murdered. One of the pieces of advice that he gave Sam was that even though horrible things happen to you in life, you can’t shut out the world. As an adult, she reflects that she didn’t realize the meaning of those words until later in life.

When I watched this movie as a kid, the emotional impact of these words went completely over my head. Now that I’m older and have lived through some pretty harsh realities, I understand exactly what he means. It’s easy to believe that the world is against you and that there’s someone in the sky cursing you with awful situation after awful situation. Even if everything is going smoothly in your personal life, you can get angry at all of the suffering happening in the world. But you can’t shut the world out. Because in between the awfulness is love, family, friendship, delicious food, connecting with strangers, the simple act of getting dressed in the morning and how good that feels, feeling proud of a small accomplishment, laughter, comedy shows that almost make you pee your pants, learning that trees can talk to each other through mycelium fungus, new age music, and countless other things to live for. Life doesn’t care about timing or spacing out bad events. Life is brutal. Not everything happens for a reason and often shit just happens. But you can’t become indifferent and stop living. You have to keep working towards a better tomorrow. That tomorrow might not be tomorrow. It might not be next year. It might not be in 10 years, but as long as you keep working for it, that tomorrow of peace and tranquility you’ve been waiting for will come.

I highly recommend watching this movie. And if you watched it as a kid, watch it again as an adult, because you’ll get something new out of it.

Being An Imperfect Environmentalist

Over the past year, I’ve gotten into sustainability and protecting the Earth. I light up every time I hear the word ‘sustainable’ or ‘sustainability’. From the research I’ve done, I have realized that a lot of the world’s problems are connected to the environment and our inability to slow down. The concept of living more consciously and intently, is uplifting, because not only do I think that paying more attention to how we treat the Earth will help the environment, but maybe even save humanity all together. This past year I took a class in college on systemic thinking. One of the resources I read for that class was about the year 3000 and what we as humans want the world to be like that far into the future. All of the authors agreed that they wanted an ‘imperfect but lovable world’. It could just be the young idealist in me, but I believe that the concept of sustainability can help us get to that point.

Even though becoming more sustainable as a person and inspiring others to do the same is uplifting, it also terrifies me. Every single time I read a disturbing article about climate change, I realize that it’s not necessarily just a foray into becoming a better human/contributing towards a better world. It’s a matter of life or death.

It’s not just preparing for natural disasters that might come a thousand years from now if we’re not careful; it’s about apocalyptic disasters set to happen in this century. It’s not just about choosing an organic bamboo t-shirt over an ethically made, cotton American shirt sprayed with pesticides. It’s about the female and child garment workers working over 12 hours a day in egregious working conditions; breathing in toxic chemicals while being paid slave labor wages just to survive. By the way, these chemicals find their way into the water supply as well. It’s about how  2/3 of the great barrier reef has been bleached. It’s about how minorities in poor communities will be disproportionately effected by climate change. It’s about how the Arctic during the summer-time will be ice free by the year 2040. I will be 43 years old. That sounds like a long-time from now, but in the grand scheme of things, really isn’t. The next war could be over water supply. Fact is, climate change is going to make the world into a pandemonium and 30% of people believe that climate change is not human caused, but rather due to natural changes. While this is still the minority and not the majority, cultural influences are powerful and as a result, they vote in people who deny climate change. The majority of Republicans in congress deny climate change because of big-oil special interests. Even amongst the slim number of Republicans in congress who do believe that climate change is caused by humans, they don’t believe that it’s a huge threat. For instance, Governor John Kasich who is seen to be moderate believes that, “Now it doesn’t mean because you pursue a policy of being sensitive to the environment, because we don’t know how much humans actually contribute.” It’s depressing when you look around you and want to snatch all the plastic bottles out of people’s hands and replace them with reusable ones; showing them how much easier and cost-efficient it is. It’s depressing when the college you go to promotes sustainability, but their compost bin isn’t even inside the dining halls. They also overheat the dorms and classrooms to the point where you’re sweating profusely and feeling nauseous. You want to yell at the administration and tell them how much money they’d save if they turned the thermostat down and told people to wear sweaters instead. It’s depressing when you see people do silly things that are toxic to the environment and if they made one small change, it could make a huge difference. But I also know that I have to have compassion and know that people care. They just aren’t educated enough and/or don’t have the time to think about it due to the ludicrously busy lifestyles we’re forced to live today.

However, I also think that environmental perfectionism can steer some people away from living more sustainably as they feel that they can’t live up to what they perceive to be an impossible standard. Including myself. Now don’t get me wrong, I absolutely admire and support the zero waste movement, minimalism, capsule wardrobes, only buying ethical and sustainable products, compassionate vegans, living off the grid, etc. If you do any of these things, props to you! I believe that the world can and should learn from these movements; but doing all of these things 100% of the time isn’t attainable for everybody.

I often will beat myself up for not being ‘sustainable enough’.  Even though I know about the horrors of the fashion industry, I still buy clothing from mainstream retailers when I need pants in a petite size, a bra that fits my large breasts, work clothes that fit my budget, or simply just because it’s more convenient. I try to buy more ethical and sustainable products, but I can’t help that they all come packaged in plastic. I’m just not in a place in my life where I can ‘DIY’. I still take 20 minute hot showers because I like it. I still use the dryer to dry my clothes. I’m nowhere close to zero waste or even low-waste yet. I can’t go vegan due to having a plethora of food allergies and other health conditions.

As you can see, some of the things I listed above I can definitely improve on and some of it is outside of my control. But I can’t help but compare myself to bloggers, youtubers, and Instagramers who I know are doing better than me. Sometimes I’m able to rationalize my way through and tell myself that I’m in a learning stage, that it’s important to have a peace of mind. Even if I could, I don’t think I would be completely 100% anything because having an obsessive mind-set where I scrutinize all of my actions isn’t healthy for me. However, whenever I see a new article talking about how we’re destined for the worst within our lifetimes, I feel like all the actions I’m taking are minuscule compared to the depth of the problem. If I use another plastic bag all the fish in the ocean will die. I need to start a capsule wardrobe now! 32 pieces in my wardrobe per season max! Curse you food allergies! Because of you, I can’t go vegan and I’m killing the planet. Yeah that piece of plastic might be recyclable, but only 9% of plastics get recycled, so therefore I must go zero waste NOWWW!!! You get the picture.

I can only do so much as one person. The key to saving the planet and becoming more sustainable is educating people on actions they can take, not specific lifestyles or labels. Small actions add up. Imagine if everybody drank from a reusable water bottle, started thrifting more, used public transportation or car-pooled whenever possible, refused plastic straws, or went meatless on Mondays. Think of the impact all of this would have! It is my opinion that the simple, daily changes of many can have the same effect as the larger actions of a dedicated few. If you can’t or don’t want to do everything in an eco-friendly/sustainable way, don’t give up the ship! Every little action helps!  Nobody should shame you if you aren’t doing things in their way or up to their personal standards. I’m not and will never be the perfect environmentalist. Instead, I strive to become more mindful and aware of the actions I take each day, while also educating myself as much as I can. Living a more sustainable lifestyle is a journey, not an instantaneous endpoint. Don’t beat yourself up for being an imperfect environmentalist. If you’re reading this blog post, you care, and that is what matters the most.

How are you an imperfect environmentalist? Let me know in the comment section down below!

Alex

How To Avoid The Fast Fashion Industry On A College Student Budget

Recently, a well-established women’s clothing store, The Limited, has closed their in-store businesses after 54 years. Why? Because consumers are showing a preference for cheap, fast fashion retailers that can keep up with yearly trends. The Limited was known for making multi-purpose, business casual clothing that never went out of style. This used to be a successful business model, but now a days, consumers prefer to purchase an abundance of clothing at cheap prices and then dispose it, once the trend is deemed unfashionable. While being able to purchase 3 dresses for $30 at Forever 21 might sound like a deal you can’t pass up, the consequences are detrimental for factory workers and unsustainable for the environment.

Factory workers are paid on average 3 dollars a day and given few legal protections. Many of these workers are exploited and forced to work 12+ hours a day. A sector of these factories don’t even given their workers a day off. One would like to think that this is a rarity or an exaggerated statement, but it’s a reality. Only 2% of suppliers pay their workers a living wage and the workers, often female, can barely support their families.  In addition to the fast fashion industry being toxic and dehumanizing for workers, there is currently 11 million tons of textile waste in landfills. This textile waste takes over 200+ years to biodegrade.

While I can’t control the fact that Donald Trump wants to get rid of the EPA, I can control what I choose to buy. I understand that buying from more ethical, sustainable companies is more expensive and difficult when you’re on a tight budget. As a college student, I can’t be the perfect sustainable/ethical fashionista 100% of the time, but I do believe that my awareness of the issue helps.  Here are some things I do to avoid the fast fashion industry when I can on a college student budget, that you can do too!

      1.) Shop at thrift, consignment, or vintage stores: Thrifting is one of the number one things we can do to be sustainable when it comes to clothing. Reusing clothing instead of throwing it into the landfill, is so important, as it extends the life-cycle of an object. It can be hard to sift through the racks, as some of them are filled with grandma sweaters that grandmas wouldn’t even want to wear. However,  you can also find some true gems at thrift/consignment shops. The prices are also extremely compatible with a college student budget, often surpassing discount fast fashion retailers. While the majority of the clothing in these thrift/consignment stores were probably made from conventional clothing stores, you are not supporting their fast fashion practices. Instead, these funds go to the store owners or charitable causes.

Vintage stores are also a wonderful place to shop! Not only are they fun to look at, but back in the day, clothing was made to last for multiple decades.  Even though vintage stores cost a bit more money than thrift/consignment stores, I find everything there to be of high quality . The shop owners, also, often know the story behind the item. For instance, I got this red hat at a vintage store in Providence, Rhode Island.

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The shop owner told me that this beaut’ was made in the 70’s and apparently had never been worn before. It is incredible to me that this stunning item would’ve spent its whole life-cycle never being worn. In today’s fast fashion industry, something like this would’ve been tossed in the landfill, but vintage stores give these items a second chance at life. I, 40 years later, am able to give this hat a story. An upside of wearing vintage clothing, you get a plethora of compliments as what you’re wearing is so unique. Whenever I wear this hat, I get, on average, about 3-5 compliments in a day.

     2.) Etsy: I pancake flipping love Etsy and browsing their website. For those of you who don’t know, Etsy is a website where independent businesses can sell their products, similar to eBay. I can literally spend hours looking at all of the eclectic, unique products on their website. I can’t say that I’ve shopped a lot on Etsy, but what I have gotten from their sellers has been superb. I  once, got an abalone ring that only cost $33 that was handmade by a woman in Florida. It is my favorite ring and I wear it all the time.

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If you’re curious, the hand-chain I got is from Ten Thousand Villages, a fair-trade boutique store.

Best of all, it isn’t some cheap piece of jewelry made of questionable materials and no one’s human rights got violated making it. Since they are made by independent sellers, many of the products can be customized, which you can’t get at your local Forever 21. .If you want something unique and hand-made, but reasonably priced, shop on Etsy!

     3.) The Sales Section of Sustainable/Ethical Fashion Websites: There are so many great sustainable/ethical fashion brands out there, but the prices are usually not friendly for the college student wallet. Look at the sales section of these websites and you’ll see lots of reasonably priced, beautiful clothing. For instance, I’ve had my eyes on this beautiful, eggplant, stripe skirt from Synergy Organic Clothing  for only $37 and this gorgeous bamboo aubergine colored tank top from Thought Clothing  for only $12.21 US Dollars. Also, if you can’t afford to shop for main pieces on Sustainable/Ethical Fashion Websites, buy items that tend to be less expensive like socks, scarves, hats, or underwear. For instance, you can get these adorable thigh high bamboo socks from Thought Clothing  for only $9.76 US Dollar or this beyond cute, hand-made panda hat from People Tree  for only $18.24. While you are still probably going to pay more for sustainable/ethical clothing on sale, what you will be getting will be of much higher quality and last you for years, while helping the Earth/your fellow citizens.

     4.) Buy Less: It is of my opinion, that it is better to buy less and instead, buy versatile items that won’t fall apart by the time the trend is over (items are usually designed to only be worn 7x). If you think about, the $100 dollars that you spend at Forever 21 for disposable clothing, that you’ll hate later on, you can also spend on a hand-made wool coat that will last you a lifetime. I am very picky in what I buy, and even if I do shop at a conventional store at the mall, I have to **love** and be head over heels for the item before I buy it. This year alone, I can count on one hand how many things I’ve purchased (albeit, I do have a wardrobe that I’ve built up over the years that is mostly from conventional retailers). Through selective shopping, most of what I’ve gotten has been under $100 dollars. A part of becoming more sustainable is adopting an attitude where if the object doesn’t add any lasting value to your life, you shouldn’t get it. It is easy to forget that stuff is just stuff. That is why I think it is so important to feel a positive connection to the stories behind these objects. I, personally, feel a lot more connected to a scarf from a company who supports women by paying them a living wage, while also giving them other benefits (education, healthcare, etc.), than a scarf that was made in a sweatshop by an abused worker. That is why I’d rather shop less, but more sustainably, rather than having a new outfit to wear everyday.

I get that it is isn’t always possible to shop sustainably/ethically 100% of the time, especially if you’re a college student or are struggling to make ends meet. It is hard when you want to do the right thing, but don’t always have the funds to do so.  In my opinion, though, it is most important to be aware of the problems with the clothes we wear, and to help if you can. Even if only 20% of your wardrobe is sustainable and ethical, that is certainly something. Every little bit helps and matters, and it is vital to keep that in mind.

I’m curious, what do you guys do to shop sustainably/ethically in an affordable way? Let me know in the comments down below!

Interesting Articles/Sources: 

The Limited is closing all of its 250 stores

The True Cost of Fast Fashion

Analysis: Fast fashion comes at a steep price for the environment

 

Best,

Alexandra 

 

 

VSCO Cam App Review

I have a DSLR and I love it to death, but let’s face it, it’s not always the most fun to be carrying this heavy weight around your neck at all times. There have been many times when I’ve gone to just the grocery store and therefore, didn’t bother to bring my DSLR with me. However, I’ll often regret it because I’ll see the most beautiful, exquisite sunset in front of me and be like, “Dang it, I wish I brought DSLR with me.” This is where the phone comes in. However, we all know that pics on the phone are not as good as pics on the DSLR. This is where the VSCO cam comes in. Just utilizing the vsco cam alone makes a difference. The vsco cam intensifies the contrast, colors, and amps up the clarity, which makes for photo that looks less phonified (yes, I am aware that is not a word). Where the vsco cam shines though is in it’s filters. Their filters are absolutely stunning and bring a film, retro like quality back to photography. The only con is that I wish that more of them were free as there are a lot of filters that they have, but you have to pay :(.

However, where the VSCO cam fails is the social aspect of the app. You cannot like or comment on photos, the only way you can know who is interacting with your page is based on how many followers you might have. From what I understand, the intent of this was to bring the gallery like quality back to photography. People just go and look at photos, not pressing a button or saying a comment. I respect this viewpoint, but I think that people get to hung up (including myself at times) on how many followers they have. Users, in my opinion, will just be thinking about how many people are viewing their photography rather than using comments and critique to grow and learn as a photographer. Photography to me is a very social thing. We use photos to capture memories with our loved ones and express our feelings. Heck, there are even meetup groups for photographers and those who are professionals are constantly meeting new people, taking portraits and trying to infuse their personality into the photo, regardless of how well they know them. In fact, I believe that the current social media stratosphere doesn’t allow for as much socialization around photography as it should. A pure “viewing count” or “like” does not tell me what the person really thinks about my photo. Therefore, it is of my opinion that the VSCO cam app is good to utilize for editing photos but not sharing them.

Now here are some photos that I took with the VSCO cam app. If you’re viewing this on a laptop, the quality won’t be nearly as good, sorry. This is another aspect that technology needs to improve itself in :).

xoxo

Alex

Why Sarah Mclachlan is One of the Best Female Musicians of All Time

Sarah Mclachlan. You might know her for a few things. The song Angel. Her tear-jerking ASPCA commercials. Being Canadian. Lilith Fair. However, in my opinion, she is so much more than this and is totally underrated as an artist.

My journey of listening to Sarah Mclachlan started when I was very little because my mother loved to play her live album Mirrorball in the car. I always enjoyed her soothing voice, but at this point in my life, I was more interested in listening to Kelly Clarkson, Carrie Underwood (whom I both love), as well as other more teeny bop, popular musicians. My love for her resurfaced though when my acupuncturist who I saw when I was in the 4th-6th grade (yes, I really did start acupuncture that young, lol) played her Afterglow album while I was getting treatment. This really helped me relax and evoked my imagination while I was lying on the table with needles in me. As you can probably guess, it is not easy for a squirmy, ADD ten year old to just lay there and unwind for 50 minutes. Sarah Mclachlan made it a lot easier for me.

The day my obsession with her music surpassed my mother was when I started high school and was really struggling with loneliness, depression,  finding my place in the world, and understanding society. I usually don’t listen or try to interpret lyrics as I like to focus on the voice/instrumentals, but Sarah Mclachlan forced me to listen. Unlike many other artists, Sarah Mclachlan writes about the human experience. She writes about growing up, tense family relationships, passion, betrayal, rising above circumstances, death, loss, the dissolution of relationships, hope, everything really. You may or may not have noticed that 99% of songs are about romantic love. While Sarah Mclachlan writes a lot about romantic love, her music differs as she goes into the deepness of it. The words she uses to describe a relationship makes you feel like you’re in the relationship even if you’ve never had one. This is especially evident in the lyrics of her song Stupid when sings,

“Love has made me a fool set me on fire and watched as I floundered
Unable to speak except to cry out and wait for your answer
But you come around in your time speaking of fabulous places create
An oasis that dries up as soon as you’re gone
You leave me here burning in this desert without you”

Sarah Mclachlan feels things deeply and this is definitely evident in all of her songs. It’s almost as though she’s letting you inside her head and I feel like emotional, intense thinkers will be able to relate to her lyrics. While I can’t say I’ve ever dated or known someone like in her song Building a Mystery, the lyrics are the ones I’ve pondered on the most out of all of her songs. These lines particularly resonate with me,

“You live in a church
Where you sleep with voodoo dolls
And you won’t give up the search
For the ghosts in the halls
You wear sandals in the snow
And a smile that won’t wash away
Can you look out the window
Without your shadow getting in the way?”

She writes with sophistication but without pretentiousness. Her songs are raw and real, and feel as though you are listening to the finest of poetry. However, like I said earlier, voice and instrumentals are just as, if not more important to me than lyrics. Sarah Mclaclahlan’s voice has an earthy, distinctive quality to it, but unlike other earthy sounding musicians, her voice is easy to listen to. She also has the ability to sing extremely, extremely high, almost like an opera singer.  The instrumentals on her songs are also unique and give her easy listening songs a rock sound quality, which therefore, makes for some really phonoaesthetically pleasing songs.

She is also just as phenomenal of a person as she is a singer. She created a ground breaking all female singer-song writer festival that was created to dispel the myth that women couldn’t be played back to back to one another. She also created The Sarah Mclachlan School of Music, a free music school designed for at risk youth. I also went to a concert of hers two years ago and it was an extremely intimate experience. She had a couch on her stage and selected people got to come up on the couch during a break in the concert and meet her. Sarah was extremely gracious and kind to those who were on the stage. Additionally, she had people write questions and put them in a hat. Then, she answered a few of the questions for the audience. It was by far one of the most interactive musical experiences I’ve ever had.

I’d highly recommend checking her out and not just her biggest hits. She has a huge library of music and there are very few songs of hers that I don’t like or feel meh about. I’ve created two playlists, an intro to Sarah Mclachlan playlist and a playlist for those who are familiar with some of her work.

Intro to Sarah Mclachlan Playlist:

1.) Angel

2.) Witness

3.) Adia

4.) I Will Remember You

5.) Fallen

6.) Fumbling Towards Ecstasy

7.) Good Enough

8.) Possession

9.) Sweet Surrender

10.) Building a Mystery

Other Incredible, Epic Sarah Mclachlan Songs:

1.) Steaming

2.) Vox

3.) Black and White

4.) In Your Shoes

5.) Monsters

6.) Time

7.) Stupid

8.) Plenty

9.) Wait

10.) Don’t Give Up On Us

 

15 Things I Would Tell My Teenage Self

My teen years weren’t the easiest of times. Between a tough course load, awkward body changes, and navigating the ever so complicated social scene, the teen years are not as wonderful as those movies, tv shows, and books make them out to be. I am graduating high school this Friday and now find myself in a reflective state of mind. Sometimes I wish that I had an older friend to provide me with comforting advice to make getting through my teen years easier. Therefore, I decided to compile this list for current teens  who might be struggling and myself as sometimes I have to remind myself of the things I have learned. After all,  everyday you have to force yourself to grow a little bit more, right? Here are 15 things I wish i knew during my teen years.

1. ) You will not get electives in high school: Yes that was a complete lie. If you want to go to college you’re going to have to take less than desirable classes such as Chemistry, Algebra II, Economics, and French instead of classes that would’ve enriched your soul. However, you will get through it. There might be blood, sweat, and tears but the pay off will be tremendous.

2.) Do not be friends with someone just because they like you: Making friends will be a struggle for you. Because of this, you might feel the urge to grab the first person that shows any interest in you and hang out with them. But often times they will either be kinda psycho, superficial, or just wanting to hang out with you because you’re a person to go do things with. Do not spend your time or mental energy on these people.  Instead cultivate relationships with people who make you feel your worth. Having one really amazing friend feels so much more fulfilling and spiritually empowering than ten flaky friends.

3.) Your twin sister is your best friend and don’t ever forget that: Your twin is always going to be the most loyal, trustworthy, nicest, insightful person you know. She will always be there for you and don’t discount her just because you didn’t have to impress her in order for her to be your friend. Hang out with her more often, this will make your high school years much less lonely.

4.) Girls who say “love you” on social media don’t really mean it: You will have friends who will comment on your pics or posts and say “I love you” or “Love you Alex.” You will not know these girls all that well and be in the budding stages of cultivating a friendship. The fact that they say “I love you” so flippantly  like this means that they aren’t the type of people you want to be hanging out with. You will find out that they don’t care about you in the way that you thought or they’ll only phone you up when they have no one else to talk to. Lesson is, many people will not take the word “love” as seriously as you  do. Be wary when people use this word.

5.) Confidence is key: You will meet people who are super weird (and not in that good way ), uber crazy, and annoying. These people will serve you well because they will teach you that their confidence is what draws people to them, even if they are the strangest of the bunch. Just look at Donald Trump!

Don’t worry about every little thing you say to people or how you present yourself. If you aren’t as socially anxious and focus more on the activity rather than impressing people, you will be surprised at how many more people like you.

6.) Wear makeup not because you think it will make you prettier, but because it will make you feel good: Makeup will not make you prettier and you don’t need to do elaborate, heavy duty looks to be pretty. However, with that being said, it’s fun to see your lips different colors or to amp up your naturally luscious lashes. There will be a makeup debate. One says, if you don’t wear makeup, you don’t care about yourself. Another side of the debate, perhaps the more viscous side, says that those who wear makeup are self-absorbed, vain, and do it to solely to attract men. Neither of these things are true and do what makes you happy. Makeup can be empowering and can help you look put together, especially when you’re not feeling your best.

7.) You don’t have to be pretty to be worthy: Looks aren’t everything. Yeah, maybe your nose is kinda long when looking from the side, your eyes shrink when you smile, you have a freckle on your eye (yes, this is a thing), your eyebrows are thick, your teeth are kinda tiny, your chin looks crooked due to jaw problems, and sometimes in photos you get a double chin. But you know what, your flaws are what make you, you! If we all looked like Angelina Jolie, Angelina Jolie would not be considered as attractive as she is. At the end of the day, it’s how you carry yourself and how your personality shines through your smile that matters. Work with what you got and you’ll be much happier than constantly trying to think of who you could be and hoping that one day you’ll wake up and those flaws will be gone. It’s better to look interesting and unique than to be purely pretty.

8.) The classics you read in English class will not enrich your understanding of the world and change your life: This is a complete and total lie. Many high school classics are really boring and you’ll wonder why people like them so much. Their life messages will be basic and things you have heard before. Modern day literature literary themes and messages are so much more complex and in-tune with today’s complex world. You will learn immensely from these books and they will change the way you look at things.

9.) Don’t be embarrassed to read children’s books and not read them as a result of this: Children’s books are often better written than adult and young adult fiction and contain more complex characters and plot lines. Just because you are older than 12 does not mean that you can’t enjoy them as much, if not more than, a child.

10.) Don’t feel the need to defend yourself: Don’t defend your gluten-free/dairy-free diet, your hobbies, tv show/movie/book preferences, clothing style, nothing. Decent people won’t care and it is more fun to just live than think about if they’re judging you (because they probably are).

11.) Don’t spend time being angry at people you once thought were friends and fantasizing about their demise: Forgiveness will not be your strong point. Unfortunately, karma doesn’t often serve people who deserve it and you just need to accept that fact. Trying to outsmart them or thinking about their lives being ruined won’t do you any good because most likely, they won’t. They aren’t caring or feeling guilty about your pain, so you should just brush it off and keep on walking.

12.) Don’t watch a tv show just because everyone else is watching it: If certain popular comedies don’t make you laugh, don’t think that there must be something wrong with you because everyone else likes it. You just have different tastes and that’s okay. Maybe you won’t have as much to talk about, but at least you won’t be sitting there for a half  an hour waiting for it to be over.

13.) Allow people to be angry: You will get people angry at you and sometimes, instead of trying to get people to wrap up things nicely, neatly, and quickly with you, you just have to let them be mad. It’s tough holding it all in and feeling that negative energy around you, but a lot of people need time to cool off. This is a process and you’re not going to have the easiest time with this. In fact, you will still be working on it when you write this list.

14.) Don’t worry about college finances as much: You will get great financial aid  for the top schools you wanted to go to and you didn’t need to spend all of those nights tossing and turning in bed.

15.) You will not have an amazing group of friends, a boyfriend, or go on cool vacations during high school: Just not gonna happen. Sorry, no can do. Instead of imagining these scenarios and envisioning your life becoming interesting, just live it. Read a book. Take some photos. Learn about something new in history. Get better at whatever you’re terrible at. While having an amazing group of friends, a boyfriend, and cool vacations is awesome, you don’t need these things to have decent teen years. Society lies and convinces us that we need these things to be fulfilled, but as long as you have a few epic people in your life, hobbies, and an imagination you will be happy enough.

Hope you all enjoyed that. These things that I learned during high school are things that I’m still working on today and some of them I might be working on for the rest of my life. But I think it’s great that I identified these things early on and I believe that the lessons that I learned during my teen years will carry over into my college years and beyond.

What are some lessons you learned during your high school? Did you learn any of the same lessons that I mentioned?

I really would love to hear everyone’s thoughts on this. Don’t be shy and leave a comment (I ❤ ❤ ❤ comments).

xoxo
Alex

Opinion: Kim Kardashian and the Nude Selfie

I’m not a Kardashian fan. I find it kind of sickening that these reality stars get paid 10x more than someone who contributes a lot to society, such as a teacher or firefighter. They get paid to do nothing but complain about prima-donna problems all day, but that’s probably more of a reflection on what the American public values than the Kardashians themselves.

I could talk about what is wrong with this family all day long, but I do not want to write a hate post on the Kardashians. However, I do want to talk about something that’s been circulating the news. Lately, Kim Kardashian has been posting nude selfies of herself on Instagram, proclaiming it to be female empowerment.

This isn’t really anything new. As you might recall last year, she was on the cover of a magazine, baring all in its photoshopped glory. While that photo in particular was a distasteful nude, my general problem isn’t with the nudity. It’s the way she justifying it as an act of empowerment because she is owning her sexuality. Kim recently openly penned a letter that had many laughable contradictions, one of them being, “I am empowered by my body. I am empowered by my sexuality. I am empowered by feeling comfortable in my skin. I am empowered by showing the world my flaws and not being afraid of what anyone is going to say about me”. I’m sorry but if she was comfortable in her own skin and wasn’t afraid to show her flaws, the second black and white photo wouldn’t have been as heavily airbrushed and not have looked ‘perfect’. In this photo, her hair is perfect, makeup perfect, and has what the media portrays as ‘the perfect body’. Look, maybe Kim Kardashian has super genes, I don’t know, but she just had a second baby and I’m sure that her tight abs were either photoshopped or that she had plastic surgery. The vast majority of women do not look like this shortly after having children. If she was really not afraid to show her flaws, she would not look like she was ready to go to the Oscars, but naked (and wouldn’t of that have that been a hoot!).

In my opinion, she is using female empowerment as a mask for using Instagram as an attention-seeking, self-serving platform. She is doing this for publicity/her own narcissistic needs; not to empower herself, her daughter, or other women. I personally do not have a problem with tasteful nude photography.When photography is used to show humans in their most raw and natural form, it can be extremely powerful and beautiful. However, taking an ugly, sexualized  bathroom selfie and then posting another photo where you’re airbrushed for personal gain is not.

My question for Kim is: why not use International Women’s Day to spread awareness about female pay inequality,  the gender gap in certain professions, girls not being given the right to an education, the worldwide violence against women, human trafficking, or the countless other injustices women have to face around the world daily?! Why use International Women’s Day instead to post naked pictures of yourself, using no message other than ‘be proud of your body as long you Photoshop, have a hair blowout, and do your makeup first.”, and then slapping the hashtag “Happy International Women’s Day” all over it. I’m sorry Kim, but you’re instead making it “Happy International Kim Kardashian Day”. Are women who are struggling with body image going to be in the news more because of this? No, you will be. And if they are, they’ll be talking about  you as a contributor.

What do you think about this topic? Do you agree with me or have a different opinion? I’m all ears!

-Alex